Pssst. I’ve got a secret!
My guilty pleasure is watching Hallmark movies.
Sweet love stories, with everything so picture-perfect and romantic. I suspect that there are many who would secretly agree.
Come on. Isn’t it just natural to envision our lives as a storybook, complete with a happy ending?
When I was growing up, life was much simpler than today. It was a time of innocence; the family was at the heart of everything.
Families sat to eat meals together. They shared their days. No cell phones.
Today, families are so busy they are often like ships passing in the night.
Back then, I dreamed about my future. My Prince Charming and our marriage.
A house, 2 1/2 kids, and the family pet.
I would marry the perfect man with a successful career. I would stay home and raise our perfect children.
We would have perfect relationships.
I never thought of it as foolishness. It was very real and attainable to me. I believed it all, never entertaining the thought of anything different.
Then, I grew up.
A very different reality replaced my fantasy. It wasn’t bad. Just different.
Real — with some grit sprinkled in for excitement.
My husband’s career included 7 layoffs in 5 years. It never failed to happen right around the holidays to add spice.
Our children were typical teens with drama, and our relationships all had their share of bumps and bruises.
How about you?
I felt like a failure. Like the lack of perfection was somehow my fault.
And yet, it’s easy to be filled with unrealistic expectations because…
When you think of it, one really needs to do life with a sense of humor.
Here is the thing. Life happens. All the good, bad and ugly.
You may not have a choice as to what curveballs life throws at you.
However, you do have the choice of how you manage those curveballs.
Dr. Irene Cop states in 10 Powerful Principles That Can Save Your Relationship that you always have choice and control in any situation. It may not the choice you want and yet it is always there.
Try these choices on for size:
I have done it all. Believe me, the better choice is to dive in.
It took a lot of soul-searching and changing my habits.
One of the greatest gifts I have ever given myself was to accept my “humanness” and to forgive myself when I fell short.
Getting to this self-loving place took work.
I decided I was worth it. I deserved to live my best life, and so do you!
We are all human and the last I checked, none of us are perfect.
Believe me, if any of this feels familiar, there are simple ways to improve all of your relationships and life.
Rod Hairston teaches you how to own your super abilities to make changes to your mindset and life.
Most of you will read this and not follow through. But, if you are ready to make a change, you can start by being open to the possibilities.
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You won’t believe how high you can soar!