Have you achieved the financial success you desire?
If not, what’s stopping you?
If you’re like most people, you’re looking for that elusive strategy to give you the results you want. You may have even taken multiple courses that have promised they have the answer — that silver bullet — only to have them fall short over and over.
The real problem is that you are looking for love in all the wrong places.
Even the best strategy in the world is not going to work if you have a lot of B.S. (limiting belief systems, that is) creating roadblocks and blind spots to achieving your desired results.
It all starts with awareness of where you are at so that you can decipher what your B.S. might be.
If you’re not exactly where you want to be, here are 5 simple tools to clear B.S. that may be blocking your desired wealth goals.
The first step in any journey is to set your destination. This sounds so simple and yet most people fail to do this critically important step.
Typically, you’re not happy with where you are financially and yet you have no clear vision of what your desired wealthy life looks like.
Setting your vision is the foundation for all success. It is your internal GPS for knowing your destination before you physically experience it.
Just as you trust that the road continues beyond the reach of your headlights at night, so you need to trust in your vision to keep you on track toward your goals.
Even if you’ve never consciously set a vision, you have in all likelihood done it unconsciously.
Have you ever wanted something so badly you could just taste it?
You could hear the waves rolling in at your waterfront home as you looked out at your private sunset vista with a glass of red wine in your hand, cuddling with your soulmate.
You were setting a vision and didn’t even know it.
DON’T Show Me the Money!
More often than not, however, you know what you don’t want:
Worse yet, your imagination works overtime, and you lose sleep as you worry about what might happen if you don’t pay that bill on time.
You jump every time the phone rings, afraid that it might be a bill collector. You don’t pick up the mail, because you’re afraid of seeing overdue and collection notices.
The challenge is that you get what you
focus on. If you’re focused on the negative, such as, “I don’t want to go bankrupt”, all your unconscious mind hears is “bankrupt” and you will manifest that.
Not a believer? Read “Not Reaching Your Wealth Goals? Quit Focusing on Your B.S.” where we summarize quantum mechanics and the research supporting the 4 Laws of Focus.
Therefore, the first step is getting crystal clear on what you DO want… in positive terms. If you need help with this, Growth-U’s Big Picture: Creating Visions That Work Program or Global Wealth Mindset: 45 Days to a New Way of Creating a Compelling Financial Future. Both programs are awesome at helping you clarify your desires and achieve them.
2. Clear the B.S. from Your Belief Systems
A vision is only effective if you believe you can attain it. Otherwise, you just may suffer from Sudden Wealth Syndrome. Even if you do receive the wealth you want, you will likely lose it because it is not supported by your habits and identity.
If your vision feels really uncomfortable, it is a good sign that you lack the necessary belief to achieve it.
In “Not Reaching Your Wealth Goals? Quit Focusing on Your B.S.” and “3 Types of B.S. Blocking Your Financial Success“, we discussed how your beliefs are formed as a combination of the environment in which you are raised, the programming or teachings that your parents have given you, as well as significant emotional events that you may have either in childhood or throughout your life. These become limiting B.S. (belief systems, that is) that don’t support your wealth goals and visions.
Your beliefs, in turn, make up your unconscious identity… Who you are.
Your unconscious mind uses your identity as the yardstick by which to measure every new experience, real or imagined, to determine whether the experience or desire fits with your current identity.
If your desire does not fit with your identity, your unconscious mind considers the new desire to be a threat to your well-being and safety and it will do it’s best to derail you.
If your new action or way of thinking is outside your current identity, your unconscious mind will throw up as many roadblocks as possible to cause blind spots (more B.S.) to any good strategies which would create the results you want.
The good news is that you can hack your unconscious mind’s operating system to develop a new identity and belief system by creating new programming and reframing your negative significant emotional events into positive ones.
Awareness of your current B.S. is 80% of the battle and the solution.
3. Reframe Your Negative Significant Emotional Events
Why is it that two people can go through the same traumatic experience and one will be forever traumatized and unable to move past it while the other will use the adversity to change the world?
You may not have control over everything that happens to you in life–as Dr. Viktor Frankl, survivor of 4 Holocaust concentration camps, would tell you. However, you do have the ability to choose how you react to your experiences. It is now your Responsibility to choose whether you are going to continue letting these experiences to run and ruin your life.
This sounds great in theory, and seems impossible to apply… or is it?
4. Write Over Your Programmed Beliefs with Reference Beliefs
The next step is to replace your old belief systems programmed through your upbringing and environment with borrowed Beliefs of Reference.
Perhaps you were raised by a single mother, who worked hard and yet barely made ends meet. There was never enough money, and your mother may have even gone without lunches just so she could give you what you needed and occasionally what you wanted.
Perhaps you were raised in a low-income ghetto, surrounded by ex-convicts and drug addicts.
Perhaps you were raised in a family with “feast and famine” finances, where your parents did a good job of hiding their financial woes with escalating credit card bills.
For better or worse, these were the role models you were exposed to at a critical development stage, and who have shaped your beliefs and identity around wealth.
Awareness, once again, is 80% of the battle and solution.
The good news is that you can now choose new role models who have the identity you need to attain and maintain your wealth.
These role models may be even better than your parents because you can choose them just for their outstanding wealth traits, or even just one aspect of their wealth identity.
Wealthy parents may not be the best role models for relationships and health, for example, if they work 80 hours per week and are never home.
While it will be more challenging than when you were a young child, you can still deliberately emulate your chosen role models.
5. Use Your Imagination to Write Over Your Old B.S.
As powerful as your unconscious mind and your old identity are, it has an Achilles heel. It cannot tell the difference between reality or fantasy.
Remember the last time you watched a horror movie? As the stalker is stealthily creeping up behind the beautiful young woman, a knife in his outstretched hand, the music builds in a crescendo of panic.
As you watch, I guarantee that your heart is beating faster, your pupils are dilating, and your muscles are tensing to get you ready for fleeing.
Your body is reacting as if you ARE the victim in that scene. All of those responses are controlled by the unconscious part of your mind.
The good news is that you can use this consciously to fool your unconscious mind into believing that you do have the identity of a wealthy person because your imagination is ten times stronger than your current B.S.
Once you have actively engaged all of your Beliefs of Reference, using role models and your imagination to visualize your goals vividly as if they have already happened, you can reach the stage of Conviction.
Conviction is far stronger than belief on its own. Your belief plus imagination has fired you up and you are so enthused. It’s like knowing it’s Christmas Eve and you’re going to have presents to open the next day.
As you condition your unconscious mind by practicing these exercises, you will move inch by inch into Expectation.
Expectation is the strongest state by far. There is no excitement, just a calm knowing that what you want IS coming true. It’s like knowing the sun is going to rise tomorrow morning. You don’t even question it. It’s just a fact. THIS is identity.
This is the identity of someone who has been born into wealth, and you can create it for yourself using these exercises consistently.
Your beliefs and other limiting programming installed over time has formed your identity around wealth…. Or the lack of it.
The simple fact is that if your parents were wealthy, you have been given the golden ticket to wealth because it is already your identity.
Don’t sweat it if you weren’t born with a silver spoon in your mouth. You CAN create your own wealthy identity by overwriting your operating system with new beliefs of reference created by emulating role models which may be even better than those provided by wealthy parents.
It starts with taking responsibility and choosing how you perceive and respond to your significant emotional events which have shaped you.
Then, follow these steps:
Finally, remember that there is no THERE. This is a fluid process of making changes, taking stock of progress, recalibrating, and moving forward… just as when you use GPS to guide you. Enjoy the journey!